Individual Therapy

In this vast world, it’s incredible…

…that we can feel alone in our experiences, struggles, and pain.

If the sadness, stress, frustration, fear, or desperation feel like that’s all you feel, you’re not alone.

Sometimes it feels overwhelming just to leave the house, face the world, provide for your family, and do your job. The pressure of simply, living life can feel like too much. There are days when you don’t even want to get out of bed, don’t want to deal with people, even your family. Living this way is exhausting.

Feelings like these are part of life.

Unfortunately, for some people, the intensity or the seemingly never-ending arrival of the troubles they bring, starts to impact their ability to function. It’s okay to not be okay with the way you feel, the way your life is taking shape. You may feel like giving up or running away from your problems, but that only makes things worse.

The best thing to do is find a safe and helpful place to start the processes of unraveling all that is going wrong. That is hard to do without experienced help from a person who has worked through that type of stuff before.

You’ve taken the difficult first step and arrived here, because you’re smart enough to know you can’t do it alone. You realize some problems are bigger than you can handle alone or by doing the same things you’ve always done.

We can help. We can make the process easier and not so overwhelming by being your partner in the journey. Like a good friend, we can be there for you, listening and being a trusted source of impartial guidance.

The reality is that it’s all relative.

We feel as though no one can be experiencing what we are and, to an extent, that’s true. We are uniquely ourselves, and our feelings are unique to us… even though the experiences to which we’re reacting are similar to those of everyone around us.

But it’s our responses to the emotional injuries and life’s difficulties from our past and present that are uniquely ours.

The things that happen to us happen to everyone, but not everyone responds the same. You may be able to handle a lot more than someone else, or maybe something small puts you over the top. Like the straw that broke the camel’s back, something little proves to be the thing that pushes you too far. No one knows your story like you; your fears, the things that hurt your heart, and tear at your soul.

When we work together, you build the skills that fit your situation, your abilities to handle the past, and what comes your way in the future.

When life’s demands cause us to lose grip on what’s important…

When we find that our relationships, job performance, self-esteem, or happiness are suffering, it’s clear we need help. No one has ever provided a handbook or instruction manual on how to deal with our emotional challenges. And we certainly weren’t taught that in school.

When a person suffers an emotional injury, they tend to build barriers around themselves to protect their emotions.

The walls people build not only close out others from their hearts, but they also close in the pain. The walls stop you from dealing with the events that caused the emotional injury. The impact of our experiences does not shatter us like glass. Rather, the events build up over time, slowly impairing our ability to experience joy, feel like we have control of our lives, and destroying our relationships.

We lose a sense of our value, our importance in the bigger picture, and begin to doubt ourselves, our relationships, and our emotions. The collection of the small insecurities shows itself in our performance at work, socially, and in our interactions with others.

It’s the gap in our knowledge where the pain and dissatisfaction take root.

It’s like anything else we experience, when we don’t know how to do something, many of our attempts to adjust and push through are misguided and off target.

Depending on the topic, the under-informed attempts make matters worse. It’s like trying to catch our own spelling mistakes. If we could have spelled it right, we wouldn’t make the mistakes in the first place. The same goes for helping ourselves through difficult emotional experiences.

When we find ourselves in the gap, it’s time to call a professional.

And it’s in the gap where a skilled therapist can be so useful.